In our deepest conflicts, we understand that our human spouses can never satisfy our eternal longing for God Himself. In our joyful intimacy, we experience a taste of God’s love for us. A Christian marriage is designed by God to lead us to reflect the mysteries of His nature.
Although the world is corrupted, it is still beautiful. As humans, none of us are perfect. We waste a lot of time trying to be perfect or present ourselves as perfect. Part of the human experience is to fail. Another part is to aspire and imagine. One of our Godly traits is our drive to create. The gift of reproducing the image of God (bearing children) is a sign of being created in God’s image. Creating art, building, cultivating—all these are marks of God’s creative image that we bear.
In coaching, we have the time and space to learn, explore and create. We learn to acknowledge ourselves, listen deeply, discover who we are, take risks, and build deeper relationships with others. In coaching there is no rush, there is no force. The coach’s role is to shine light on the client and invite deeper exploration. The coaching process works for anyone who is open to learning, no matter what their worldview.
Andrea Happel is a Relationship Coach who helps couples build loving, joyful marriages. She also works with individuals who want to build healthy relationships with themselves and others.
Andrea’s core values are faith, relationships, honesty, creativity, and vitality. Once upon a time, Andrea was a world traveler and teacher of languages. When she discovered coaching in 2011, it was a natural continuation of her love of language, story, and adventure.
When she’s not with clients, she’s homeschooling her three boys, writing, dancing, singing, and growing food. She and her husband Greg have been married since the year 2000.
You are half a Christian Married Couple.
You may be a mom or dad in your 30's or 40's.
Because of the demands of life (family, career, etc), you don't take time for yourself or for your spouse.
You need clarity on needs, boundaries, a healthy relationship with self and others, peace in the home.
You are practicing saying "No".
You desire confidence in who they are.
My client is trying to grow personally, cultivate authentic relationships, take time for self, raise children, manage a household, keep a budget, plan for future, stay afloat, pay the bills.
Also: get sleep, please her husband/his wife, breathe, live a Christ-like life of service. May also be homeschooling, building a business, live a healthy life, create.
You may be making these mistakes:
Dreaming of escape
Making goals very broad instead of actionable
Blaming others instead of taking powerful action
Talking too much-rehearsing the same stories that keep you stuck
Trying to do it all alone instead of asking for appropriate support
You may experiencing:
Fatigue—to the point of possible depression
Resentment from carrying heavy load
May be covering for a spouse
Exhausting power struggles/fights in family
If any of this sounds familiar, I want to reassure you that you don't have to keep living life in a way that is not joyful and satisfying. If you are ready for the next step, keep reading!
The next step is simple! Your marriage has a pulse and it needs to be checked! Click the heart below to schedule your marriage's Pulse Check!
Good question. Initially, I attended a coaching school for ten months. Training included classes and peer coaching. I then completed the requirements to apply for a credential through ICF—International Coach Federation. The ICF maintains rigorous standards for continuing education and mentor coaching. I’m an active member at both the global level and in my state chapter—ICF-Iowa.
Yes! I love to work with people who are open to deeper awareness, new thinking, and ready to commit to action. As you commit to growth in the areas of life you control, don’t be surprised if your relationship changes too!
I coach both individuals and couples. You don’t have to be in a relationship to benefit from Coaching With Andrea.
No. While there is some overlap, they are two different approaches. Counseling or therapy will focus on the past, or healing of trauma. Coaching is present and future-focused.
A therapist might ask, “What events in your past led you to respond this way?”
A coach would say, “How do you want to respond to those around you?”
A counselor/therapist is free to give advice. Coaches are trained to refrain from giving advice. Rather, coaches invite you to participate in a creative partnership to discover a course of action that you believe in.
That depends. In some cases, a coaching relationship can compliment a therapeutic relationship. You may deal with different topics. For example you may be privately working through past issues in therapy, but want to practice communication with your spouse through coaching.
In cases of diagnosed clinical depression, addictions, addressing past or present abuse, or other trauma—continue working through these issues in therapy. Revisit Coaching when you have established healthy equilibrium.
The best way to find out is to schedule a “Pulse Check” call with me. At the end your conversation, you’ll have a good sense of how we will work together.