Marriage is Hard!
Let's get plain about it!It started out great, didn’t it? You had so much love, so many dreams. But somewhere along the way, things got messy. You never meant for it to happen. Neither did your partner. And sometimes you can still feel the good flow you once thought would be your new normal. Those times are scarce…in fact, when was the last time you felt connected?
I understand if this is a question that brings tears to your eyes. We all crave a genuine connection with our significant other. But, can I tell you that it doesn't have to be like this?
I can relate to what you are going through. You may be experiencing what I went through, not so long ago. I want to encourage you. It doesn't last forever as long as you check your relationships' heart. That is where I come in!
Where do we begin? We do a pulse check.
What is a Pulse Check:
"I cannot emphasize enough how important this is. Your vision for your relationship or your own life become the “Why” of everything we do together. The more you can describe your vision, the better."
When we enter a coaching relationship, we :
What happened in the past to make you feel this way?
Let’s sort through your past trauma for healing.
What past experience caused you to have this outlook?
What makes you stuck?
How will you address this feeling today?
What does healing mean to you?
How does your outlook affect your choices now?
What has to change to help you get unstuck?
What you get with me is a present and future focused plan of action!
Good question. Initially, I attended a coaching school for ten months. Training included classes and peer coaching. I then completed the requirements to apply for a credential through ICF—International Coach Federation. The ICF maintains rigorous standards for continuing education and mentor coaching. I’m an active member at both the global level and in my state chapter—ICF-Iowa.
Yes! I love to work with people who are open to deeper awareness, new thinking, and ready to commit to action. As you commit to growth in the areas of life you control, don’t be surprised if your relationship changes too!
I coach both individuals and couples. You don’t have to be in a relationship to benefit from Coaching With Andrea.
No. While there is some overlap, they are two different approaches. Counseling or therapy will focus on the past, or healing of trauma. Coaching is present and future-focused.
A therapist might ask, “What events in your past led you to respond this way?”
A coach would say, “How do you want to respond to those around you?”
A counselor/therapist is free to give advice. Coaches are trained to refrain from giving advice. Rather, coaches invite you to participate in a creative partnership to discover a course of action that you believe in.
That depends. In some cases, a coaching relationship can compliment a therapeutic relationship. You may deal with different topics. For example you may be privately working through past issues in therapy, but want to practice communication with your spouse through coaching.
In cases of diagnosed clinical depression, addictions, addressing past or present abuse, or other trauma—continue working through these issues in therapy. Revisit Coaching when you have established healthy equilibrium.
The best way to find out is to schedule a “Pulse Check” call with me. At the end your conversation, you’ll have a good sense of how we will work together.